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In Other’s Words
Marion Smith, MD Marion Smith Consulting
I recently had the great good fortune to be trained and mentored by Angela on a series of courses. Angela is wise, experienced and inspirational. She not only teaches her craft meticulously but provokes her students to exceed their personal boundaries, think for themselves and to research widely beyond the confines of the subject to gain deeper insights, broader horizons and greater self awareness. I cannot think of any higher accolade than to say Angela has opened my eyes to possibilities way beyond my ken.
Alastair Behenna, CIO/IT Director
On the walk to school this morning my 7 year old son Jed did something extremely hard for him to do which was emotional for him. In essence, he quietly apologised to another child’s Mum for his behaviour towards their child. He did so very genuinely, on the edge of tears and in his own words. The other mum was fabulous and took Jed’s hands and reassured him that it was ok and that her son was ‘no angel’ either at which point they shared a smile.
As Jed and I walked away I was filled with an enormous sense of pride and love for my wee man. He was on my left hand side, as Harry (Golden Retriever) had been for Angela, and I was instantly struck by the desire to model Angela’s love for Harry. So as we walked together I told him, as Angela does to Harry, how proud I was of him, how I thought what he had just done was awesome, how much I loved his wish to make things better, and just how much I loved him. As I did so and moved just a tiny bit closer to him, as Angela had done to Harry, he reached out and took my hand ( not something as a 7 year old boy he does spontaneously very often these days as it’s just not cool). When we got to school we had our ‘way hay’ celebratory moment. I went back to my car and cried.
I was struck, as I often am, in the moment, so much so that it stopped me dead in my tracks. In the moment of modelling Angela, I realised I do not hear myself overtly and consistently praise Jed for who he is and the many many positive things he brings to life. I, like many others I suspect, I will often hear myself scold, moan at, or point out where he could do better. I would have always felt that pride and love in the situation, but I would not always voice it to Jed openly and earnestly. And whilst I tell him every day how much I love him, I was suddenly struck by how lost that could become in the noise of all the other less positive things he hears from me ” eat up your dinner”, “why are you taking so long?”, “why can’t you listen to me?”…Will my ” I love you handsome” at bed time be enough to cut through all the other stuff, to sustain and secure him?
There was a clarity in that moment when Harry was bobbing around the room, being very lively. Angela was sitting chatting to us, and then she simply stood up to demonstrate her calmness when entering the show ring. Without a single word or glance in Harry’s direction, and with Angela simply standing still, he suddenly stopped chasing his tail, looked at her, and walked quietly over to her taking his place at her side, and expectantly looked up at her as if to say, “I recognise this, we’re going to work”. I was struck by how powerful their connection was that even when he was happily doing something else, he sensed a change in her. I am blown away by the love and security Harry appears to feel, that he is so sensitive to state changes and can be in the moment with a person without preamble, thought, or instruction. I am left thinking of ways to model this more, so that my loved ones fee I am as sensitive to their state changes and can give of that empathy as easily and without thought or preamble as Harry.
Mel Fairley, Talent & Organisational Development
Learning & Development Lead
Consultant Clinical Scientist
Master Coach & Supervisor
PHD Researcher in Psychological Science